I've been trying to figure out what the subject of my very first blog would be...then it hit me like a ton of bricks. It came in the form of a question. What?!? Am I the only one that questions herself? And I don't mean in my head but outloud...I asked myself...WHAT IS THE TITLE OF THE NEXT CHAPTER OF YOUR LIFE?
I know! I know! It is a good question. Cuz see...boom.... Our lives are truly books and the way I see it each year we write a new chapter. Well I know I do. I'll tell yall what chapters 2020 and 2021 were at a later date but tonight I'm going to share the title of Chapter 2022.
Chapter 2022 of the book of Kym will be entitled: BE INTENTIONAL. I kinda talked about this briefly last week during a live on my Facebook page. I remember challenging you guys to be intentional with your gift giving this season. I said that because some of us get so wrapped up in just buying gifts that we end of buying things just for the sake of saying that we did. But u get the point of that.... let me get back to answering the question that I asked myself. I'm going to do everything in my power to be intentional in everything that I say and do in this next chapter of my life. If I say something and it hurt your feelings understand that it was my intention to do so. If I make you smile understand that it will be my intention to do so. If I give you a gift, understand that your gift will be full of meaning and purpose. It will be intentional. Etc. Etc. Etc. What I'm trying to say is that I will try my best to make every move that I make purposeful. I've been through so much and have made many mistakes and bad decisions that could have been avoided. Oh...I know that you guys can relate. I believe that if we make our moves intentional we will be less likely to make mistakes and more likely to make better decisions.
Think about it....Being intentional will cause us to think before we act (no more making rash decisions) and be mindful of how it will effect our families and friends (they matter too), and most importantly; being intentional will cause us to SLOWWWWW DOWWWN!!
Every person that I know has a trillion things to do every single day. Speaking as a mom and wife those things are multiplied by ten. I do so much that it seems like 24 hrs in a day are still not enough. I mean I still have clothes in the laundry room that I need to fold. I still need to comb Khloe's hair for my Aunt Angela's funeral tomorrow, and I need to iron our dresses. I feel like I'm a chicken with my head cut off most of the time. My husband sees me moving so much so fast sometimes that he'll say, "Look at you..always in a rush to f***k up." And when I think about it he's right. When I'm in a rush I always make mistakes and I don't make the best decisions. It's not until I slow down and pay attention to what's going on and take my time that things end up getting done. I'm finding that when I attach intention to the things that I do, they come together smoother.
For example, and this may be a silly example but you'll get the gyst....Yesterday after I had gotten ready for work, I began to flat iron my hair and I swear for the life of me the flat iron wasn't understanding the assignment at all. After about 15 mins of trying to flatten my hair in the top I just gave up. I mean I didn't even bother to add anymore Got 2b Glue to my lace or nothing. I just went on to work. But tonight, I used the same flat iron after I had put my pajamas on. See tonight I attended my book club's First Christmas Pajama Party. And when I tell yall that flat iron had this hair fried (not dyed) but definitely laid to the side...okayyyyy‼️ I even used the Got 2B Glue to lay that lace and even put the back of the flat iron on that to make sure it was laid. Now let's analyze what I just said. Same Kym, same flat iron, same hair...different results. Why??!? Because when I woke up yesterday morning for work, in my mind, I didn't want to go. I didn't have any intentions of going to work. I had mentally clocked out before I even clocked in. I made myself go. On the flip side, I had been excited about that pajama party since last week. I had every intention to attend that.
See when you're intentional, you tend to take your time, you put more care into what you're doing or what you're saying and you tend to get better results. I know that there may be times when you're being intentional and things may still go wrong but I believe that as long as your heart is in the right place things will work out for the best.
So here I am challenging you to ask yourself the same question that I asked myself. What is the title of the next chapter of your life? Let's all do our best to write the best chapter yet.